What’s one thing I regret about high school? I wish I had a prayer life back then. I pray for a culture of prayer often for our church’s youth group. There was so much I compromised in high school simply because I didn’t take the time to daily God to the Lord and His Word.
That being the case, my journey of starting a devotional time didn’t get under way until the year before I got married. Our pastor’s wife was teaching a women’s Bible study at the condo my now-husband owned. She said something one night that I will never forget. This is what kicked me off to start the training for the prayer marathon that life, marriage, and family is.
“Prayer is like a muscle. It hurts when you start working out, but the more you work it, the stronger you become, and the easier it is to use.”
That sounded simple enough. Like any workout, you start slow and easy, and you build and increase the time, weight, and your strengths are increased as well. Prayer no longer seemed daunting.
With that advice, she also had prayer journals for us. They were written by her aunt for her young wives and mothers group that she taught. I’ve since written letters back and forth to her aunt, and she definately seems to have a Titus 2 heart in desiring to reach out to and teach younger women, which I am now eternally grateful for!! Helen, if nothing else, my marriage has grown SOOO much from this tool you created for women to use. I am so thankful you used the gifts God has given you to build others up in Christ.
Equipped with encouraging advice, a blank journal, a guided prayer journal, and my Bible, I set to work with my morning routine. Over the years it’s changed just a bit, as lifestyles and schedules change, but this is a general guideline of how I do it. I hope this serves you as a helpful way to get started as well.
These are the three books I always have in the morning: prayer journal, my notebook, and my Bible.
First off, a little more about this amazing guided prayer journal: it is numbered with 31 days, so you have something different to pray for each day of the month. When a new months hits, you just start over. I’ve been praying through this for…four years now? Something like that. I’ve taken notes here and there or added verses to pray along with specific requests. There’s a topic to pray for your husband, your children, yourself, and missionaries in your life each day. I love this! This was so helpful when I got started with a regular prayer routine because I couldn’t use the excuse of not knowing what to pray for each day. I always had something new to pray for. Over the years these have become more of suggestions as I launch in to prayer.
Backing up, I start my morning by hitting the *brew* button on the coffee pot. 😉 haha On mornings when Brian is home, I’ve really tried to wait and drink my coffee later in the morning with him so we can hang out and chat, but I’ve learned that I serve him better if I have my java earlier than him. God created the coffee bean, and I believe He created it to help serve moms by waking them up in the morning! So, I get my coffee going, and I sit down in my faaaavorite spot in my house.
This table. I love this table. I’ve tried reading on the couch, but I just can’t do it! Not enough room to spread my books and journals out.
Anyways, I bring all my book to the table, and then I pray. Through reading this great, great book recently called, Lord, Change Me, I have an understanding of the importance of asking the Lord to take away any human wisdom I lean on or previously conceived thoughts and ideas I have about the passages I’m about to read. This allows room for the Holy Spirit to be my teacher, which is the MOST important part of this entire process. After that, I dig in to the Bible. I’ve been following this Bible reading plan since January of LAST year, and at the rate I’m going, it will honestly take me eight years to get through the entire Bible, which I am perfectly okay with. I go through two chapters a day, then the next two the next day, instead of doing four chapters a day. It’s just too much for me, and I really want to meditate on what I’m reading and not just get through the Bible in a year for the sake of getting through it in a year.
I just read and annotate. I take notes of anything that pops out at me in my journal. I write other scripture verses that the section may bring to mind. I journal about how the verses can apply to situations in my mind. I write down prayer requests the chapter prompts. Anything and everything the section brings to mind, I write about. I truly believe this is what the Holy Spirit is teaching and spaking to me through His Word. I used to think I was just free associating, but then I realized the fact that I can even free associate thoughts in a spiritual manner is a gift from God, so it must be the Holy Spirit guiding me! I don’t like to bring commentaries into my study unless I absolutely can’t understand the section at all, which DOES happen. haha In the Old Testament this happens more often, simply because I don’t understand history very well at all, and I often need to look things up. But it’s all good! God totally uses those tools to speak to me. Brian got the Believer’s Bible Commentary as one of his textbooks in Bible College, and it has been so helpful for me! I love having an actual copy of a commentary of the ENTIRE Bible on hand in one place! I take notes in it, so I can reference back to it. My other favorite tool is Blue Letter Bible. They have online commentaries you can read or listen through. One of my favorite teachers is David Guzik. I also love that they have a section for women’s ministry and teachers. When I clean up around the house during the day, I almost always have one of their women’s teachings on. It’s so encouraging and helpful to keep your mind focused towards heaven even when in the middle of housework.
Ok, ok, back on track. After that I go to prayer. Since I’ve gone through this prayer journal so many times, I recently picked up The Power of a Praying Wife and started it for the second time. It’s basically the same exact thing as the guided prayer journal, but each topic you’re praying over for your husband includes a small chapter with helpful verses and thoughts as to why it’s even important to pray that specific thing for your husband. I just started The Power of a Praying Parent a few days ago, and I am LOVING it! It’s such a simpe, refreshing reminder about how parenthood really is a battle in prayer. So good! Check those helpful books out.
With those tools, I just started journaling out my prayers with the topics for my husband, myself, and my child in mind. These are long and short. Honestly, sometimes I stop right in the middle of a prayer because I’m so discouraged about what I’m praying about that I can’t go on. Or I’m so tired that I can’t even think straight. It’s ok. The Lord loves my the same even if I don’t finish my morning devotional time! haha Other times, fourty five minutes to an hour will pass with the Lord and I feel as if I’ve just started! This is my time to pour out my heart to the Lord, complaints, concerns, questions, everything. This is my catch all time with Jesus.
And that’s really it. I start where I left off the next morning. I think this is a good thing…I’ve become so dependent on this routine that I have to take my books when I travel. If I have to get up early for something, I have to get up even earlier for prayer, or I just won’t have my daily fuel to serve my husband, family, and others. It’s taken several years, but I really can honestly say I can’t get through my day with a right attitude without digging in to that spiritual fuel pump of strength in the morning. It’s supernatural, that’s all I know.
If that sounds like a lot, start small. Start with one verse a day. Half of a verse even! Sometimes throughout an entire chapter, the Lord literally only highlights a single word to me, and that’s my word for the day! If this seems too overwhelming to pray all those things, pick a single verse and use that as a prayer. I promise you, the more you do it, the stronger you will become! God will cultivate a strong prayer nature in you, and over time you will learn to rely on the strength He provides through that muscle. Ask the Lord for wisdom on how HE wishes your devotional time would look. I’ve had to learn this past year that God’s plan for Brian’s devotional time is a whooooole lot different than his plan for my devotional time, and that’s ok. There’s no one way to do it. God just wants you to do it. Pray for wisdom and faithfulness to put what He shows you in to action.
One super cool thing about journaling through the devotion and prayer time is that I can look back on God’s faithfulness. There have been a few times where God’s given me a word of knowledge about someone through prayer, and I can go back and see His supernatural power at work in me. It’s crazy! I share that to encourage you guys to desire His spiritual gifts! If I feel like God is telling me specific answers to prayer during the day through a song I hear or a verse He brings to mind, I run to my journal and write it down. Ask Brian. There are often times he comes home at the end of the day, and I get out my journal to share things God’s been showing me with him. I pray often that one day these journals would serve other’s in some way. It’s often tempting to get rid of them when I see them piling up and taking up space in our tiny house, but I hope my testimony through these journals bring someone closer to Jesus one day.
In Christ,
Lexy